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College Confidential: Applications... Where it all begins

9:30 AM

OLO MA BEANS!! Guess why yo girl is hyped... She just finished all of her college applications and so she has a few experiences to share with all of you youngsters out there. I am pretty proud of how I did not procrastinate and happy with the application process, so let's get started...


  1. Start Early: This is what you probably hear every time you ask a Senior about college apps. I started all my apps in June when the prompts came out. Even then, I ended up turning in the weekend before apps were due. Give yourself plenty of time to edit. The system might crash if you procrastinate. Apparently this year two days before UC apps were due, the system crashed.
  2. Talk to a Professional about Your Essays: Find a college counselor. I know that not everyone can afford someone like this and that these college counselors might be a bit pricey but from my experience first I did not have to pay for a college counselor (I will link the post later) and he was the one who helped me the most. Here is why I recommend one: first, they do this for a living, so they probably know what they are doing. Second, it's another person to look at your essays and help you edit. 
  3. Find a few people who have gone through the college application process to help you edit essays. They have already been through the process, so they have some idea on what college want. In addition, since they are already in college, they have more experience with writing essays. 
  4. Check your application twice before turning it in. I learned this the hard way, as I forgot to change one of my courses. The thing is I did not know that my second semester history class is another class until after I turned in my apps, so I have to call both Common App and UC system to change it. 
  5. If you are a Junior and you qualify for SAT fee waiver, get the fee waiver. This is actually a life saving tip, because of this SAT fee waiver, I saved money on sending in my scores. With the fee waiver, scores to four colleges are free. 
  6. Research about the school. You want to know whether you like the student life, the campus, and the program there rather than just applying to a school with a prestigious name. It will definitely help you in the future because this is the only way you can passionately write about why you want to go to that specific college.
  7. Turn in apps around a week before the due date. This will allow you to work out any issues with the application.
  8. Ask for help. If you ever need help with applications or have questions about anything, go and email your counselors at school, they are there to help you and if you are ever confused. Feel free to email me. I'm always open to 8K of y'all.
Honestly, don't feel so intimidated by this process. Everything is actually not as complicated. Just breath and it will be over before you know it. Until next time, stay cool ma beans. 

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Reaction Tuesday: Homecoming... Finally

9:30 AM

OLO ma beans!! If you all follow me on Instagram, you would have seen that I was at homecoming... Yes hunties... I finally went. Honestly, it wasn´t as bad as I expected it...

Since I´ve been hearing a lot of bad stuff about it since Freshman year. I went with my friend this year because obviously your girl is so awkward she can´t get a date. The traffic slowed us down a lot so by the time we got there, it was already past the hour time frame that people are suppose to arrive. We rushed in with the student council president... She was late also, so we didn´t look as bad. The first mistake that I made was dropping off my shoes with one of my friends who had a date who was also her boyfriend. We literally hadn´t talked in forever, but we were close enough were we could talk whenever... At the end of the dance, when I went back to get my shoes... They were in a make out session... My shoes were RIGHT UNDERNEATH THEIR CHAIRS and so we crouched down and got our shoes without looking up and ran. That was awkward experience one... Then came the time when I thought it would be smart to take off my heels and wear my ten year old flip flops instead. You know once you wear flip flops too long, they would be super wore out and slippery. Well guess what. I didn´t think about that. While I was making my way outside, there was water on the ground and I slipped and fell.
My friend didn´t even noticed. I guess that was good that she didn´t notice and that I fell behind a table... Needless to say, one side of my butt hurt the rest of the night. It got even MORE awkward when we started dancing our way into the grinding circle and you can see EVERYTHING. At that point, I´m super glad I´m short. A word of warning for anyone else going to informal dances this year... If you don´t want some girl wearing the same dress as you... DO NOT buy a nude/light pink bodycon dress. Literally, I saw around 20 people wearing that. As the night went on, some of my cheer friends got into a social media fight where they were roasting past team mates. We then headed out to attempt to buy pizza at 11 because... why not. The food there was absolutely horrible... But then again... I wasn´t expecting much. We had cookies... on a stick. That was by a celebrity chef. Well that´s my rant for today... How was your homecoming? Until next time, stay cool ma beans. 

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College Confidential: Recommendation Letters

9:30 AM

OLO ma beans!! In the spirit of back to school season, I have prepared another College Confidential post for y'all. As you are applying for college, there are many components of your application, recommendation letter being one of the most important parts after your test scores. Having a good recommendation letter means that there is one more person talking about how great you are and how much you qualify for the schools of your choice. I am here to share some tips on getting the perfect recommendation letter or getting one at least...

  1. Start early: I know applications are probably not due until November of your senior year but you need to start asking teachers at the end of Junior year. Teachers need time to write the recs and often times, if you think a teacher is awesome then twenty other students will think so too. 
  3. Participate in class: Honestly, this is one of the hardest things to do. Trust me, I am so socially awkward and I know NO ONE wants to participate in class. The thing is, there is a column that asks about student's participation in class for the Common App, so teachers kind of have to fill this out. For those of y'all who just do not want to do that, I recommend participating in the class in another way to get the teacher to remember you. Take charge and create the class t-shirt, create parties, bring food on days when you are watching movies; all of these options work. Just get the teacher to have something to write about.
  4. DO NOT SLACK OFF: Some teachers might not even tell you that they are going to write about negative behavior on your recommendation letter, so make sure that you pay attention in every class. You never know who is going to write your recommendation letter. 
  5. Be prepared for rejections: Maybe because you asked too late or because this teacher has too many recs to write so you might get rejected. This is why you need backup teachers for when the ones you want does not write your recommendation. This does not mean this teacher hates you, rather it's because they want their students to succeed so they will only write the best recommendation possible. I haven't been rejected by the teachers of my choice but I think if these teachers had rejected me, then my whole college plan would have messed up. 
I hope these tips will help everyone who is going into Junior year and those who are applying for college. Until next time, stay cool ma beans and good luck. 

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College Confidential: I'M GOIN TO COLLEGE

9:00 AM

OLO ma beans... Pretty late last night, I realized that I have missed the one year anniversary of my blog... It was on March 20th. So whooohooo it has been one year and I've already accumulated so many of you!! Can't believe it's has already been one year. I'm probably going to have a really late celebration during summer.

Now I'm on my way to apply for college. You are about to embark on one of the mos exciting but torturous experience a student can go through. The past 16 years of my life is defined during the next 5 months. And yes, I have a late birthday, so when I am in college I am still 17 so that means for the first two months if I find a boyfriend older than me then it's illegal... and I won't be able to drink until I graduate college... I still remember strolling with my grandfather in China talking about moving out when I'm 18. Everything I've worked for is defined by one or more pieces of paper. Since I'm starting another subsection in my life, I want start another series that will go on every time I make a discovery about the college applying process or passed another level on the college applying process. I want to help all of those who are going to apply for college in the future and show everyone how I survived one of the most competitive high schools in the nation. Until next time, stay cool ma beans!!

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Last Few Days

9:00 AM

I just want to sit down a chat with everyone for a few moments. No series, just me and all of you. I posted a few days ago that I will be signing off for AP season to study but as days goes by, I realized how screwed I am even if I study.

I literally failed (meaning I did not pass) two tests this week. One is a midterm which is basically a practice AP exam and the other was a history test that I studied for 15 minutes on the car. Yes I know, I know I should have studied longer, so let me tell you what I was doing the night before. I finished my HAND WRITTEN notes for class and the rest of homework (1 assignment but I'm a slow worker). I also slept 5 hours because we got out of school early but in my defense, I slept 3 hours the night before studying for my midterm. My "power naps" became "afternoon bedtimes".
At this point, I am out of energy to try anymore. My grades are slipping out of my hands faster than water and I'm losing control of everything. Don't even get me started on my math grade. There are only around 5-7 grades left to put in, and I'm only passing. If I don't get my GPA up, I can say goodbye to my first choice colleges. I know some of my readers are from other countries and your academic life is probably worse than mine yet I'm still struggling. What makes the situation even worse is that my super nerd friends (they are the most genius, genuine, amazing students that's why I call them super nerds because they have magic powers to get good grades and be in so many extracirriculars all at the same time) all got into a team for next year. I tried out for both and didn't make any.
Yay for how much I suck at life. This whole team thing is either you are really good at what you do or you're popular enough to use connections to get in. Well, I have neither. I learned to take rejection calmly but this is too much. I don't know why I'm always so bitter and negative but sorry if I depressed you. Until next time, stay cool ma beans. 

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Deep Thoughts Monday: Disney is Getting Real

9:00 AM

I love Disney shows. You love Disney shows. No matter how old you are... You love Disney shows. Conveniently Netflix has a lot of these new Disney shows. Oh my cheese puffs are they different from Hannah Montana.

A spinoff of an old show is on there... It's called: Girl Meets World. I was so surprised when one of the episodes talking about Autism while another episode targeted cyberbullying. In Liv and Maddie, the main character rejects the guy she likes because it's not right. Disney is getting so real with these shows... I LOVE IT!! Instead of giving children unrealistic expectations of middle school and high school... AHEMMMMM HIGH SCHOOL MUSICAL... Children can actually see that there are problems in high school... Realistic problems. Now children are at least slightly prepared to meet people who are different from them and embrace the unique selves they are. To be honest, these shows actually helped me to be more confident in who I am. Disney is making a positive impact on the next generation and unlike before where Disney ruined my high school expectations, I think kids are going to be more prepared for a realistic side of high school. I mean of course, it's Disney, it's still going to be rainbows and unicorns but at least they're addressing some problems of today. Until next time, stay cool ma beans. 

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Q&A Thursday: Creative Ways to ask someone to Sadies

9:00 AM

OLO ma beans!! In the spirit of my on-going relationship troubles, I decided to help all of y'all guys and girls who has some kind of formal or dance coming up.... and have no creative way to ask them besides a corny pun (there is nothing against puns) and a poster. NO WORRIES!! I am here to help you!! Well hopefully I can help you... Let's get to it!!

Why didn't I use these gifs before...

Make a video!!
This is one of the most original ways where you don't see a lot because most of us don't have time. It actually does not take that long. Get some flash cards, write the message you want to write, some awesome background music, and dress up all purty. Film yourself flipping through the cards. BAM!! Creativity!! You don't even need to speak to that person.

Make a path in the school!!
I have actually only seen this once in my 4000 people high school so it is not that common and ABSOLUTELY the most ROMANTIQUE way into asking someone. Literally just tell whoever you are asking to wake up a little early and ask your friends to help you set up by drawing on the floor with chalk. I'm not sure if your school would allow this though so check with the administrators beforehand.

Ask teachers to help!!
This is for those bold souls out there... Just ask your teacher if you can come into your crush's classroom and again. 1 flower per period. Basically write a word on each flashcard and give it to them every period... until the last period of the day when you see them and ask!! SUPER ROMANTIC!!
And if you are bored enough, like one of my friends said: Just casually throw phrases like "Let's go to sadies?" and then brush it off. Her logic is that eventually they will have this thought in their mind...
I hope that I've at least helped a little bit... In the end if you guys are compatible, it doesn't matter how you ask them. As long as you ask, whoever it is will be happy. Happy Sadies. Until next time stay cool ma beans. 

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WTF Wednesday: 2.5 GPA and Sadies??

9:00 AM

Alrighty, MY GPA JUST DROPPED TO A 2.5 average. Am I in a state of panic?? Heck yes. Am I going to do something about it?? Heck yes!! I already emailed my teacher so hopefully, I'm praying that I will be okay... I swear because of high school I might become religious.

The whole thing is basically my fault and also the lady who has the same email in gmail as my Chinese teacher. What happen was that I was suppose to email a project to my teacher, but then I typed in ".gmail" instead of the school email, so obviously my teacher did not get my project. OKAY update: My GPA has returned to normal and she accepted my assignment! YAY!!
This was a video project where I have to post my video on YouTube and then share the link with her before 3:00 pm. SO THANK THE GPA GODS THAT THERE IS A SUCH THING CALLED A TIME STAMP. Literally if I did not have that time stamp, I would be sobbing because I would not have proof and basically I'm going to fail the class. I might be a bit dramatic since there are only three grades in there but dudes... The Asian logic is that even one grade matters in the whole picture. I will continue to update this post as the day goes by to see whether she is willing to give me points for the video or not.

YES THE NEXT TOPIC IS SADIES. For those of y'all in other countries, basically sadies is a dance where the girl asks the guy to the dance. So am I gonna ask someone? VERY VERYYYY slim chance. Like slimmer than Sehun's arms. You see, the guys that I like are either all in Korea (some might be on tours in other countries), across the country, too far away to drive here, or dating someone. Speaking of dating, I wanted to check out the guys at my first choice college... You know for potential dates and I did find this super cute guy, he's athletic and smart. TOTALLY MY TYPE... But then, I decided to scroll to past 77 weeks ago and then I liked that picture. Well, I'm now scarred for life... I'm paying the price for stalking... This is seriously a public service announcement because be really careful when stalking people on any form of social media. Until next time, stay cool ma beans. PS... Can y'all just casually pray for my grade right now?? Thanks... 
Your laptop have just been blessed...

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Two Rants in 1 Week!!

9:00 AM

OLO ma beans!! I haven't been posting lately because I have a lot going on right now. First, I'm working as tutor after school so I can make some extra cash. But while I'm doing that I'm also a working/aspiring artist so I need to get pieces in constantly. I produce around 1 piece a day. AND I'm also going to normal school. ANNNNDD I'm also trying to keep a social life. I'M HELLA BUSAY!! 

But I'm not complaining, I love this life. There might be some bumps in the road.... Such as the story later on... I think I'm going to get through this semester alright. So I have another rant for you. My AP English teacher is the best person to rant about because she's both biased and racist so YAY public education!!!! As you all know by now this woman favors the top students and apparently this girl got the first full score on an essay. Okay good job for them... OH NONONOOOOO she had to READ the essay in class... And she said, "I don't want to reveal who she is." Two seconds later.... LITERALLY TWO SECONDS... she points to her and was like, "GIVE A HAND TO HER!!!" UHHHHHH... How is this helping me in anyway?? And she cried... She cried because she was so touched by the essay. This is ridiculous!!! RIDICULOUS!!! WHY ARE YOU CRYING???
Are you on your moon cycle?? I know you like her but you can't just show plain old bias like this. You can't be this obvious on who you favor over others. Teachers are not suppose to act this way and yet somehow because she is an AP teacher she has the right to do that. Do I hate my life?? Hell yes. Literally every night I sleep at 2 in the morning. Do teachers realize that we have homework for other classes? This is probably why I like my history teacher much better than other teachers because she went to school here and she knows the pressure. WHY DON'T TEACHERS UNDERSTAND US?? I'm too poor to afford private school but public education should give me the same knowledge and yet I get stuck with a teenage teacher who has no idea what is going on. By the way did I also mention that she's a racist?? Nah she's not racist towards students but she sets herself as the "superior race". 
She is constantly talking about how "white" she is. And she does not mean Starbucks and Uggs she literally refers to her skin color. I. Don't. Care. About. What. You. Think. Of. Yourself. I am here to learn and yet you are preventing from that by talking about your life. Since you could care less about me, I could care less about you. Literally I feel like public schools should just put the top percent people in AP Classes because teachers don't care about the average students anyways. I wanna hear your rant story... Post them down in the comments below!! Let's get a discussion going on how "wonderful" all of ma beans' lives are... Until next time, stay cool ma beans!!

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WTF Wednesday: I am a minority in my AP Class...

9:00 AM

OLO ma beans!!! I've been getting some comments and emails addressing the fact that I'm not posting much.... And that I need to rant more!!! My explanation for why I haven't been posting will be on a separate post probably up tomorrow....

BUT I HAVE RANTS!! LOADS OF THEM!!! AND I'M SO GLAD THAT YOU LIKE THEM AND REQUEST THEM!!! So today I have a classroom rant... I feel you AP students out there!!! So apparently I'm a Junior now.. So hard to belief that just yesterday I was a Freshman. As you know... AP teachers are very important because you might ask them for recommendation letters. OHHOOOHOOOOHOOOO!!! ALL I kid you not... ALL of my AP teachers hates me. Let's not even talk about last year's AP Bio teacher. Let's just talk about this year's AP English teacher. Holy moly. I swear every AP teacher only cares about the top two people of the class. Sure they stand out but what about average people like me and you???
She won't even CONSIDER writing rec letters for me because I am "average". You know what else pisses me off?? The fact that she is constantly praising the top two students of the class and ignoring other students. Honestly we need more praise than them because that is all they get. Speaking of AP classes, I share my APES class with Seniors and apparently my teacher thought that it would be hilarious if I was sitting with a table FULL of Seniors. This is second semester... Literally as long as they pass the class they will be happy, while me on the other hand. I still have ONE FULL YEAR OF WORRYING in front of me. I want to go to a good college not a semi good college. Do these teachers understand that?? Juniors should sit with Juniors and Seniors with Seniors. If there are successful business people out there please remember me because I might work as the Janitor in your company in the future. Remember to give me promotions. I wanted to target the one percent people in this post but I think they deserve a second one. Until next time stay cool ma beans. 
Here is a calming GIF to keep you going

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WTF Wednesday: RANT TIMEE!!

12:42 AM

We have not had one of these for a verrryyy long time, but BOOYYY DO I HAVE A RANT FOORRR YOUUUUU!! This is about SAT testing... So if you think this topic is boring please feel free to find the WTF Wednesday tag or explore my blog... LET'S CONTINUE WITH THIS!! Collegeboard is a "non-profit organization that connects students to college success and opportunities".

And by "non-profit" they mean: a charge for SAT testing, ACT testing, SAT II, review materials, score reports, AND score choice. AND by "college success and opportunities" they mean: you must take these tests or else you will not get into college and even if you get a high score you might not be guaranteed acceptance in the college you want to get into. I literally cannot stress how many of the "college search" emails I get every single day. On average in a week I literally get around 15-20 emails. BUT YOU CAN UNSUBSCIRBE!! I still want these opportunities... Maybe I might just go to Indiana University or University of Alaska. You know what else bothers me... THE FACT THAT THEY SEND OUT TEST SCORES DAYS BEFORE BIG HOLIDAYS!! I AM NOT EVEN TRYING TO FOOL YO!!
Me hitting my SAT scores... Or my prep books...
Whatever floats your goat...
The November SAT scores came out days before Thanksgiving DAY and the December SAT score CAME OUT TODAAAYYYYYYYYY!! What is today... Like two days before Christmas?? Do you Collegeboard people seriously want to ruin our lives like this?? Because of the score that was released today, my mother made me delete all forms of social media from my phone. THANK YOU SATAN!! I literally cannot... Do you want to know what my desk looks like??
SAT got me all worked up...
I have TWO SAT prep books on my desk at the moment and it is one in the morning here. Someone please tell College board that WE ARE ON VACATION!!! You know... Sometimes when I get angry enough... I start looking through the authors of who wrote the textbooks and wonder if their parents never got married then I would not be learning that thing right now... So who invented Collegeboard?? Which teacher decided, "HEY you know what's a great idea?? Not only charge kids for a national test they have to take but also ruin their lives by constantly changing the format of the test!!" THANK YOUUUU SAAAATTTANNNNNNNNN!! I am so done at this point with my life. I wonder how many people gave up at this point... Clap your hands if you don't care!! I hope we all survive this period of our lives. AMENNNNN. Until next time, stay cool ma beans!!
Don't get too worked up... I got angry so I looked up
Channie gifs... OOPS... #ShouldBeStudying

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Double T: I've Hit Rock Bottom Once More

9:00 AM

I don't feel like writing a WTF Wednesday because nothing is more WTF worthy than my attitude towards life. Here is the thing, I've had three test today and I believe I failed all three of them. You don't understand, I just raised my AP Environmental Science grade to a 91% and now because of this midterm (WHICH BY THE WAY IS NOT EVEN IN THE MIDDLE OF THE SEMESTER) could possibly drop to what I call the "death zone"... 88-89%.

You know why it's the "death zone"?? It's because it is super hard for you to raise it up and super easy to drop this percentage to a point where you can no longer raise it. I have a 88% in AP English and I raised my grade from a 88% in APES into 91%. DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH EFFORT THIS TOOK?? I think school should grade everyone based on the amount of effort they put into studying. For example, I suck at every single subject possible but I put in the work, so I should get an A. It. Is. Literally. That. Simple. Why am I getting a B+ when someone who does not even try gets A+s.
Excuse me for being pissy. I don't want to complain about my Honors U.S. History class but I think I have to. In that class, yes I do have a 97% BUT today on the test. I got 3/30 correct for the fill in the blank part. She wanted us. To. Know. The "popular" cities in EACH STATE!! HOW DO I KNOW WHICH CITIES YOU CONSIDER POPULAR?? I CANNOT READ YOUR MIND!! It's not like only I failed but the rest of the class did too. In addition (wow look at me using fancy transition words), she didn't even tell us about knowing all the rivers and monuments AND YET SHE TESTED IT!! Excuse me while I go stab myself multiple times with a blunt fork. I want to improve but I think I don't put in enough effort. Why do I not put in the effort when I could? Because with all honesty, I don't care. With my grades and SAT scores right this second, I could get into UCSD guaranteed so why should I try? "I should try just because" is no longer a good enough reason for me to try in school. People go to school to learn, I go to school because I have to. Until next time, stay cool ma beans. 

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Double T: Everything is going to be okay. I promise.

12:17 PM

It's my Junior year of high school and this means that it is also a bunch of people's Junior year from all around the world. I used to be one of those people who cared about other people's grades and how they are performing in school.

I was competitive. I would ask my friends for THEIR grades on the same assignments, what classes THEY were taking, what extracurricular THEY were doing, whether THEY scored lower or higher than me on a test. I thought that the only way for me to get into college was to perform better than everyone else and that's not true. There are always going to be people better than you, and people who are going to be lacking in comparison to you, but it is the most important thing to calm down and focus on YOUR life. 
Before I didn't really explore what I can do well and what I'm lacking in. 
So what is the purpose of high school? It is four years that is part of the passage to lead you to your dream job and your dream college and to explore what YOU are good at. So why was I trying to figure out what other people were good at? I decided to focus on my life and this year I am continuing with AP English because I enjoy writing. I might not major in it but it is something that I'm good at. I'm also not taking a Honors Math course because I know that I'm limited in math. EACH OF YOU can make the same decisions if you just took the time to think everything through. Breath and let's begin. 

Yes I am worried about college as much as everyone one of you. But realize that first: Junior year is the most crucial year of high school, there is already a lot of stress on you, so why are you trying to stress out even more by looking into the future?
You have a full year starting right this second before you have to even start thinking about applying to college, so don't even think that far ahead. It wouldn't help you in anyway but stress you out. Second: With the amount of time that you spent thinking about the future, you could be doing something productive to change it. Maybe you're like, "OMG I'M NEVER GOING TO GET INTO COLLEGE!!! AHHHHHH..."
Why don't you do something to change that thought? I know that it's hard to find something unique to do but don't go and find something that you aren't interested in. If you don't know what you can do to improve your school life, improve your social life, clean your room, do something productive. 
One thing that I took away from this summer is to think of the present and that we'll cross that bridge when it gets right in front of us. There is no use in competing because there are always someone who is better or talented than you in something, that's when you point to yourself and say, "I'm better than this person at ____ ." Just know that you are more skilled in someone at something, and that's enough. I know many talented people, people who are good at everything like ballet, piano, art, and school in general but because I was so competitive I used to think that I was better than everyone else. That's not okay to me, because really, everyone is good at something and you just have to find it.
Even if there might be others who are better than you, you might be a inspiration to someone. You might also be like, "WAIT BUT I DON'T HAVE A TALENT." WELLLLL.... It's time for you to find something that can take the stress away, that's what your talent is. 
What am I doing?
It's dumb to give advice and not following it, so I am trying to focus on the present and not stress out as much. Take things one step at a time and I'm trying not to ask my friends about their grades and what they're doing because that just stresses me out even more. Until next time, stay cool ma beans. 

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Q&A Thursday: How to Deal with Annoying "Friends"

9:00 AM

Do you ever have that friend that you can't get rid of so you have to deal with, or someone that just annoys the bacon bits out of you?? Well, you've given me situations and I'm here to help you solve it. Hopefully with my years of experience of bad friendships, I hope I can help you.

DISCLAIMER: The views and opinions expressed in this blog are for entertainment purposes only and shall not be considered as advice in any way. Neither ahandherbeans, nor its author shall be held liable for the content in this post. I encourage you to seek professional advice or care for any problem which you may have. 

Q: My friend is super competitive and she would always asks me what my grades are, but then she wouldn't tell me her grades. It gets annoying at points but I can't tell her that. What should I do?

A: Since I'm the one who always bugs my friends about their grades, I have to explain what your friend is trying to do, I don't want to compete but to check where everyone is. For example if on a test, my friend who is taking the same course gets a A and I get a B, I know that I should work harder. But normally I tell them my grades also unless I really didn't check. I've also known people who you are talking about, so what I do, is if they ask me about my grades, and you know that they aren't going to tell you about their grades, then just tell them "I didn't check."
or something along the lines of "I failed." The failing card usually works since that person will feel that they did better than you and just stop asking and the "I didn't check card" will probably stop them for the time being, but it's not as permanent as the "I failed". Most of the time, they won't remember to ask you about that specific grade again.
Q: My friend is super obnoxious, she's really loud and curses a lot. She attract attention to everyone around her, so everyone in school thinks that I'm also weird. How do I tell her to stop without hurting her feelings?
A: I think you literally described me. Awkward.... I think of myself as obnoxious also, but the only reason why people still hang out with me is because I have stories, and I listen to people when they talk. I don't know if she wants to do it on purpose. You probably won't believe this is but I hang out with someone that's even louder than me, and what I do when she starts to cut me off, is I literally stops talking to who ever I'm looking at, stare right at her, and tell her to her face, "Can you wait? I'm talking."
That's literally the only way for her to be quiet, but then it starts again. Whenever she is really loud, just tell her, "Hey lower your voice" and then smile, all of these solutions are only temporary though since she's had that kind of behavior longer than she's known you. It takes time to tell her that she's too loud and for her to listen. If you really don't like her, if you are in high school just join a club during lunch with the rest of your friends, and ditch her for one day. Trust me, it will be very relaxing even just for 1 day.
Q: This girl in my class thinks that she's all that, she always tries to talk to popular people, and it really annoys me that she's always like that. Honestly, she is just a girl who is a wannabe.

A: I see no question mark... But I do get what you mean. These wannabes are obviously very annoying and the best way that you can tune them out is by listening to music and physically ignoring them. For example, with the annoying girl who sat next to me in math this year, every time I enter the classroom I would have my music on full blast so it would take her three to four attempts to get my attention and to be honest... These people usually gives up after two tries. Don't let her get to you, it's her life where she wants to waste away in wannabe behavior.

Q: A guy in my class is really arrogant and he's a troll. It gets annoying at times but I can't say anything because we are friends. Should I tell him what's on my mind or should I just let him be?

A: If he trolls you on a personal level such as: "I like you... JK" or "Let's go to homecoming... JK" That's not okay, and you just need to tell it to his face and he should take it like a man. Boys are usually 5 years younger than their actual age, so they think it's natural to do something like that. HOWEVER, if he trolls on a public level, like a general joke... meaning not targeting you... Then you should just let him be since you are so much more mature than him. Arrogance is something that you just have to ignore. There is literally this guy who thinks that he can get every single girl in the whole school with his money... UH NO THANKS!! If you guys are friends for more than 3 years, then tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't stop and it bothers you literally like a 8.0 Earthquake, then just stop talking to him but if you guys have been friends for a year, don't say anything and leave.
I hope this helped someone out there who are having similar problems. The comments are anon and I would like to hear some of your stories. Until next time stay cool ma beans!!
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