HH & Her Beans

OLO ma beans!! Since its literally like the holiday season, I think that it's time to show some appreciation towards many things in my life. I first want to appreciate everything that my parents provided me.

Everyday my mom would come home at around 9:30 because she is so busy with her company and work. We don't even get to eat dinner together anymore, I am so happy and proud to have such a hard working, amazing, dazzling, inspiring woman as my mother. If another lady came into my life and told me that I was actually her daughter, I would have punched her in the face and come and find my mom.

She sacrificed so much of her own time when she could be relaxing so I could go to college. Since I can't write about her on my college applications, I think I'll just write about her here. Thank you mom, really. My father on the other hand is a man whose personality is too close to mine. They say opposites attract, so you can say that we don't talk a lot or get along that well, but that doesn't mean he doesn't try to show that he loves me everyday through small gestures like bringing me fruits to eat, keeping me hydrated, and driving me to all these crazy places where I have to go volunteering. All these little things makes up my everyday life, so thank you dad. Next I want to give some love to my best friend in the whole wide world, S. She's the only person who truly appreciates my company any time of the day, week, hour... You name it. I always write something along the lines of, "she deals with my craziness" etc... But this time, I'm going to change it up. I want to thank you for everything that you didn't do. Thanks for not ditching me when you hated the clubs that I made you join.

Thanks for not leaving me when you could have found someone who is a much better friend than me. Thanks for not screaming at me when I asked you to tell my parents that you failed on tests also so my parents wouldn't yell at me. Thanks for not being someone else's best friend. I want you to realize that even though sometimes I don't show it that I appreciate what you do for this friendship, I really do. I would also like to thank my cats for letting me pet them whenever.

Of course lastly, I want to thank ma bean army. I started this blog in March and right now I have over 3K fans and who made my Thanksgiving break a little bit more bearable?? You beans did. This is all you. Thanks for being there for my rants and my secrets when I couldn't tell anyone in real life. Also thanks for keeping my secrets. I don't know how to even show appreciation but you guys are the ones that supported me through and will continue to support me through one of the most gruesome years of high school, without you guys, I don't think life would be even close to bearable. I love you guys, your weirdness all included. Please eat lots with your family and just in your mind thank each of them for being helpful Happy Thanksgiving, and until next time stay cool ma beans. 

Have you ever listened to a song or watched a movie and the memories that floods back is so overwhelming that you get teary eyed?? Just me?? Well, I have a lot of those moments, so I am here to tell you about them.

The first memory that I want to share is the most important one for me. It is connected to my first Korean drama: Goong/Princess Hours. When my mom showed me this drama, I think I was still in third or fourth grade, and I was still in Rainbow Unicorn Land. My parents weren't very wealthy during that time since they just moved to America. We still lived in a rented home with the landlord. It was two separate houses in one yard. The back yard was a really big empty cement pool that was never filled for the time that I was there, the front yard was filled with avocado trees. When I first saw that house, I loved it because I was simple and inviting. My neighbors also had kittens that I fed everyday. I had spent nights watching that drama with my mom and she would explain to me what was going on. Each time I hear any soundtrack from that drama, I would be brought back to that little house, where I got my first hamster, where I memorized the fifty states, where I talked to my grandpa, and where I had to crawl through the window three times because my dad forgot his keys. 

The second is actually the movie Gnomeo and Juliet. It's cheesy and childish but this was the first English movie that I watched. This actually have a back story and this takes place after I moved from Rainbow Unicorn Land. I moved when I was in sixth grade, and on the first day, I met this group of girls who were super nice and everything, but then two of the girls were super close with each other. We were all going to see a movie once, and this was the movie, my mom thought that it would be dangerous if I went out alone... Being that I was only twelve back then, so I couldn't go. The following day, they were all talking about it, and I was left out once more, so this became the first movie that I watched. 

Dear Parents from All Over the World,
Most of you guys have no idea what's going on in school with your children, so I'm here to give you a little insight on the time period during your child's teenage years. Before high school, please don't pressure your kids to do well because in reality it does not help the child at all in high school. Colleges don't care about the middle school records, so by putting pressure on your child, you can only get a stressed child. Once in high school, during Freshman year try to understand the transition, and try to sit down with your child to plan out their 4 years. My mother did this with me, so it made me feel less stressed for the future, and it set out a path for me that is flexible. As a freshman, it is overwhelming to walk into such a big school and be in a class with no one that you know, so cool down a bit, and don't get on their case. It's a pretty chill year, and colleges don't look at your freshman year either, so don't worry about it. When sophomore hits, you need to understand that your child is going to sleep around 11-12 or one or two hours after their original bed time. You might think that they are tired, and yea they are, but once your body's circadian rhythm matches up, then they will no longer feel tired. This is what happened to me. My mom would often tell me to sleep early, however that is just no longer possible because this year matters a lot. Get ready for a hard working year. Listen to your child when they complain instead of telling them to stop complaining because this year is even more of a bigger transition from middle school to high school because this year, pressure is on in school to join more clubs, school activities, and joining academic teams. Sit down every year with your child and ask them what they are planning on doing. Every student should be in an academic team, at least 2-3 clubs, have a stable volunteer event, and a officer position. Once you get this package you will need to make sure that they know something other kids does not know how to do. My parents would often question me on why I'm doing so many different things, well, I want to do something great with my life that makes an impact, and I'm sure that your child does too, so support what ever they do (not drugs and bad stuff), they need it. Lastly don't forget to boost their self confidence whenever you can just because you don't know what is going on. Until next time, see ya parents. 

XOXO,
A